Raising children is always expensive. There’s no way around that. Everything is more expensive when you have a child who needs special attention. The cost of therapy and medicine can set you back big time. Working for over 15 years now, journeying with toddlers and young learners, I’ve seen how parents struggle financially.
At first, it seems overwhelming.
You’re probably young and don’t have a firm footing in what your future will be. No one starts the workforce making what they eventually will. These are already lean times for most new parents. It’s even worse because you have a stack of medical expenses that need to be paid. The good news is that things will eventually smooth out. You need to first come to grips with your new reality. After you do so, the other pieces will fall into place. I can fully understand why these words almost seem hollow right now. You will get to the point where everything begins to work out.
It’s common for new parents to struggle financially.
While your situation is unique from most parents, the financial struggle you face is similar. New parents often find themselves in a situation where making ends meet is difficult. You may feel at times that this is a mountain that you can’t climb. It’s normal to feel that way. There will come the point when you become overwhelmed. This is natural, and it happens to everyone. You may even feel like giving up at times. Feeling this way doesn’t make you a bad person. You’re a human, and a person can only take so much.
Don’t allow it to get to you.
The most important thing by far is that your child is taken care of. Above all things, that’s what’s the most important. You will throw your arms up in the air out of frustration. It happens to everyone, and you’re no different. You’ll also feel angry, and this too is normal. It doesn’t feel like it now, but you will form a thick skin. You’re going to hear people say that your lights are about to be turned off for not paying the bill. You will be able to spot those who are serious and the people who are trying to be overly forceful to get you to pay. I know this doesn’t sound good, but it’s the truth. Sometimes you have to learn which bills need to be paid first and then pay them. Life is that way sometimes, and it’s vital that you understand it won’t always be this way.
It will all become more manageable.
I know it doesn’t feel like it will now. You will hopefully down the line have better employment. You may have to further your education to receive it. No one ever intends on having a child with special needs. All aspects of your life are going to change. That’s just the way it is. You can’t go back and change things. Moving forward will require you to change many different aspects of your life. Many of those changes will end up improving the lives of you and your child. Your financial burden is significant, but it can be overcome. It’s going to take hard work and dedication, but there is no other choice. Sometimes in life, you must be blunt and straightforward. There is no option other than to find a way to make ends meet.