“With love and patience, nothing is impossible.” — Daisaku Ikeda.
A special needs child requires more time and attention than most children. I’ve dealt with countless children who have special needs, and I understand the challenges. Hopefully, you’ll be able to use these tips to help lessen the load that you have to face on a day to day basis. A household is an almost impossible thing to keep up. It becomes even more challenging when the other children are jealous of the amount of time spent with the special needs child.
Explain to your children why your special needs child needs more attention
This is one of those areas in life where you need to be blunt. The only person you’ll come close to fooling is yourself if you pretend your child isn’t different than the rest. Anyone who is attentive enough to pay attention will see that there is something different about them. It may be hurtful in the beginning, but you’ve got to be honest with yourself and come to grips with reality. If you don’t do so, then your child is going to be held back in their development.
You’ll need to tell your other children the truth. Tell them that the other child needs more attention. You’re not favoring them over your other child. You can also have the other children help you. It is their sibling, and you want to build a lifelong relationship between all of them. The way you do that is by making sure they too have an interest in the other child. You need to explain to them that sometimes people do need more attention than others. You can give them an example of someone who who needs a little extra tender loving care until they get better.
Create a bond between all children
You don’t want the special needs child to feel like they’re being left out in the cold. It’s essential that they are brought into the mix and allowed to grow up along with the other children. You should emphasize with the other children that no two people are alike. Every person is a little bit different than everyone else. Being different isn’t wrong or bad in any way. You need to teach your children that all people need to be treated with dignity. A person with a disability is no less of a human being. It just means they have more obstacles to overcome.
Make sure all children feel like they belong
It can be easy for you to separate your special needs child from the rest of the children. Doing so is a big mistake that will cause big problems down the line. Instead, try your best to include them in all the other activities. Sure, you may have to modify some things so your child can do them. Your child may not be able to play football, but maybe they could be the referee. It’s vital that all the children feel like they belong and fit in. It’s a terrible feeling to feel like you’re being singled out for one reason or another. You also want your children to realize that some people in life do require more attention than others.